Life can feel overwhelming at times, and out of balance. Whether you are navigating relationship difficulties, struggling with work place stress, feeling lost or stuck, or facing a major life transition, you do not have to figure it out alone.
You might have unresolved experiences or memories from your past which you can’t make sense of, or perhaps you have work pressures which are causing stress. Maybe you don’t feel listened to or understood, or you’re experiencing changes in your life which are difficult to come to terms with.
You might be concerned about what is happening in the wider world. All these, and other experiences, can make you feel life is far more challenging than you want it to be and you’re looking for something different.
I offer warm, confidential psychotherapy for individuals and couples (in-person and online) to help you untangle these complex dynamics, rebuild connections, and find a clear path forward.
Psychotherapy and Counselling with Lulu Eden
I have over 10 years’ experience working with clients and as a UKCP accredited humanistic psychotherapist, I offer a safe non-judgemental space tailored to you and your relationships, life experience, history and issues you’d like to talk about. I offer this therapy from the foundation of my personal values of integrity, respect, kindness, fairness and trustworthiness.
I meet each person with the belief that we are all different although we might have common desires: a wish to belong, to connect with others, to feel valued, to be seen, to be heard and that we have a responsibility to ourselves as well as towards others and the world around us.
I work with adults and couples (18+) experiencing a wide range of emotional and relational challenges.
How we work together in therapy
During therapy we would talk about what’s happening in your life now, what happened in the past, your childhood, your thoughts and feelings around these subjects, and your hopes for the future.
The direction of the conversation would depend upon your specific needs. There might be things you haven’t talked about before and I would offer you a space where you feel safe enough to discuss what’s on your mind and to say what might feel unsayable but important. Sometimes you might not be able to find the words so we’d take time to explore what you’re grappling with.
I will support you to gain insight into recurring patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaviour which are unhelpful. Therapy will help you learn more about these patterns and so you see you have choices to make changes in order to live your life differently.
We might talk about coping strategies and techniques, such as grounding techniques and breathing exercises to support your emotional regulation and calm your nervous system. Additionally, we might check in with any bodily sensations or feelings you have to understand yourself more holistically, if you feel comfortable with this approach.
I don’t tell you what to do but I invite you to be curious about yourself and to see new perspectives so you can make authentic choices.
Areas I work with:
I work with people who have a range of life experiences and emotional challenges.
I have listed some of the areas I work with below. If the area you are looking for isn’t listed, please email to check whether that is something I can support you with.
Relationship and interpersonal issues
It is challenging when we experience recurring relationship patterns; communication and relationship break down, feeling unappreciated and not listened to, a lack of intimacy, or managing difficult family and workplace dynamics, issues when dating and looking for love,
You might be asking yourself:-
“Why doesn’t anyone love me, am I choosing the wrong people?”
“I don’t know why we always argue?”
“I’m wondering about my attachment style, why is it always my fault?”
“Why do I always ignore the red flags?”
“Why does my sister/brother still treat me like I’m a child?”
“I feel so guilty. Can our relationship recover from the affair?”
Life Transitions and Identity
Many people find themselves navigating changes throughout life. That may be marriage, new parenthood, empty nest syndrome, divorce, mid-life, ageing or retirement.
You might be thinking: –
“I don’t recognise myself now I’m a mother. Is this normal?”
“Why do I feel so overwhelmed the whole time?” How will I cope?
“I’m frightened I’m going to behave like my mother/father.”
“I feel frightened about getting older and I don’t know how to manage this and who I am anymore”
Grief and loss
Coping with bereavement, lost opportunities, loss of a relationship, a pet, loss of good health, persistent low mood or depression, and self-doubt.
You might ask yourself:
“Is it ok to feel so angry this has happened to me?”
“I still feel so lonely and sad and I don’t know how to cope.”
“Why do I feel so empty?”
“I wish I’d behaved differently. How do I manage these feelings of guilt?
Low self-esteem/ low self-confidence.
You might procrastinate but want to be more assertive, or not know what you want, or need, or be constantly looking for validation from others. You might feel as if you’re not enough, sensitive, confused and not sure why you feel this way. Maybe you experienced trauma in your life and you have felt this way for a long time and would like to explore this.
You may be wondering:-
“Why do I worry all the time about what other people think of me?”
“My childhood was perfect so why do I feel like this”
“Why do I find it so difficult to make decisions in my life”
“Why do I feel so ashamed?”
Work-related issues
You might spend a lot of time and energy on your work, striving for success, recognition, or promotion. However, you’re experiencing burnout, challenges in managing corporate pressure, stress, imposter syndrome, issues around perfectionism and boundary setting. It might be difficult to find the right work-life balance.
You might find yourself asking:-
“When will they realise I don’t know what I’m doing?”
“How can I be successful and say still say no?”
“I work so hard and it still doesn’t work out for me. What can I do”
“Everyone thinks I can cope and I don’t know how to talk to my partner about how stressed I feel.”
Anxiety
You might experience generalised anxiety disorder or health anxiety. You might want support to manage persistent thoughts and worry that feel overwhelming, and physical symptoms such as feeling you’re breathing is shallow andyou feel panicky or faint.
You might find yourself thinking:
“Why do I feel panicky right now as nothing in particular has happened?”
“How do I stop myself thinking the worse is happening?”
“What can I do to support myself when I start to feel like this?”
“Why do I suffer from hangxiety?”
My background
My career was originally in the corporate world and then in the early 2000’s I retrained as a Montessori nursery school teacher and after that volunteered at a charity called Homestart. I had therapy in my late 30s and, later in life, reflecting on my positive therapeutic experience training to become a psychotherapist seemed a natural progression from nurturing children to supporting adults emotionally and practically.
Psychotherapeutic Counselling Credentials:
UKCP Member (Accredited) BACP Registered Member, MSc & Diploma in Humanistic Psychotherapy. Over 10 years of clinical experience and private practice since 2021.
I undertake professional supervision and am committed to continued professional development to support my ongoing professional interests and the therapy I offer.
My professional qualifications include:
- Psychotherapist, UKCP Member (Registration no 2011166708)
- Registered Member of BACP (Registration number 384806)
- MSc in Humanistic Psychotherapy
- Diploma in Humanistic Psychotherapy
Clinical Experience
I work in private practice.
Contact and what happens next:
Getting started begins with a simple, no obligation step.
- Initial contact: email or call to arrange a 15 minutes phone chat (free) to check both our availability and suitability.
- Suitability check: We will discuss your availability, what you hope to achieve and ensure I am the right fit for your needs.
- First session: We schedule your first session to explore your goals with no long-term commitment required.
Our First Session – what will it be like?
You may arrive knowing where you want to start or you may be uncertain. You may want to start talking or you may want me to ask you questions; there is no right or wrong way of doing therapy. Additionally, it is an opportunity for you to see if you like the way we work together.
We will talk about your reasons for coming to therapy, and what you’re hoping for. Previous clients have talked about untangling their thoughts or getting to the roots of something. Whatever it is, we will work together to find a way forward and a way to develop a space where you can talk freely without feeling judged.
Rates:
£90 per 50 minute appointment
Sessions:
Available on Monday and Tuesday in person and on line appointments at other times in the week.
