Hungarian Speaking Therapist | Borbala Jakab (Bee) London Psychotherapist

07771 230 070
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www.counsellingwithbee.com

Life is always ‘under construction’

Life happens, sometimes you hit problems and when you do it can be helpful to pause and reflect on how your life has developed so far and perhaps where you would like it to be.

I offer a safe and compassionate space, where you can explore things you may never have talked about before.

Does life feel like a ‘treadmill’, ‘stuck’, ‘without direction’?
Are painful thoughts surfacing, without any apparent reason?
Are you questioning your gender, identity or sexuality?

My priority is to provide a confidential, empathic and accepting atmosphere in which you are free to question, reflect upon and express your true and unique self. Through a relationship built on trust, we work together to find your own way in the maze of life.

“You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending.”

C. S. Lewis

Psychotherapy & Counselling with Borbala Jakab (Bee)

Life is always ‘under construction’

Clients often come to me when they feel ‘stuck’, ‘depressed’, ‘without direction’, there may be no specific trigger for these feelings. Together we can work out what is going on for you and explore how to get passed this time and enjoy the future.

Therapy can offer you a way to change the way you feel and the way you think.

During our sessions we can explore what is real, what is fixed in life, and what you ‘think’ is real and fixed but that are perhaps your misconceptions holding you back because you don’t know how else your life could be.

I offer an open, supportive and healing space to process your feelings and strengthen your identity. Together we explore your experiences and the way these shape the person you are and wish to become.

Existential Therapy: Exploring ‘who you are’ and ‘what your purpose is’

Many clients come to therapy because they have lost a sense of purpose to their lives. Successful in their profession, be that in the City or perhaps in a creative field, there is still a sense of ‘emptiness’ or ‘lack of contentment’.

Clients often talk in terms of feeling like they are ‘on a treadmill’, just keeping going without ever being able to get off.

Their feelings are made worse as, to others, they look the very embodiment of success, a good job, a happy relationship, a good lifestyle, but inside they feel hollow and empty, wondering ‘what is the point of all this, what now?’

Being unable to express or accept your true identity may generate a myriad of unwanted feelings such as guilt, low self-esteem or anger.

Being ‘successful’ comes with potential trappings.

‘Burnout’: Caused by the feeling that you need to push yourself harder and further just to maintain what you have.
‘Feeling displaced’: Sometimes success brings you wealth, moves you into a different social circle at work, thrusts you into an environment that feels alien or out of line to your beliefs (religious/ ecological/ political). Success can leave you feeling cut adrift, neither part of your personal/ familial environment or connected to your peers in your professional life.

Being in therapy helps you to uncover your strengths and develop new skills that will allow you to deal with the challenges that arise in life. In our work together I offer you the benefit of creative techniques, such as ‘dreamwork’, ‘chair work’, ‘therapeutic journaling’ and using ‘images and symbols’.

Therapy related to challenges faced around Gender, Identity and Sexuality

Many clients want to talk about the challenges they face balancing their feelings around gender, identity and sexuality.

Are you questioning your feelings and attraction to others? Are these feelings causing you emotional conflict. Gender, identity and sexuality seem more fluid and complicated than perhaps they once seemed. In the past you were either male or female, straight or gay. Today things seem more nuanced, more complicated.

You may be comfortable in your identity and sexuality but hide yourself from others who you either fear will not accept you or indeed where you have experienced rejection.

Together, we can explore how you feel and how you can respond positively when others don’t see you as you would want them to.

Working with Couples in Therapy

How Couples Counselling Works

If you’re considering couples therapy, you may be unsure how it can help or what to expect. I offer a safe, neutral and empathetic space where both of you can talk openly about your relationship, with my support to guide and balance the conversation. My role is not to take sides but to help you understand each other better and find new ways to communicate and connect.

You might be coming to therapy because you feel distant, find yourselves in frequent conflict, or are dealing with the impact of events such as infidelity, financial strain, or family pressures. Whatever brings you here, we will explore what is happening in your relationship and identify practical and emotional ways to move forward together.

How I Work with Couples

My approach is compassionate, collaborative, and flexible. I integrate different approaches and I adapt our work to your unique needs, relying on your cooperation in the process. At times, I may suggest brief exercises, techniques or guided reflections between sessions to help you consolidate what we discuss and bring new insights into daily life. We may also explore how past experiences influence your relationship today or unpack long-standing patterns.

Because of the depth and complexity of couple dynamics, I offer couples therapy in person only. As a solo counsellor, I am unable to offer couples counselling where there is a history of, or current, domestic violence, as a specialist, multi-agency support is often more appropriate in those situations.

Couples Counselling during separation to support an amicable transition

Couples therapy can also be valuable when two people have decided to separate. I offer a supportive space to help you navigate this transition with respect and understanding, especially when shared responsibilities, such as children, pets, or finances are involved. Together, we can focus on clear communication, cooperative decision-making, and maintaining dignity as you move towards a respectful future apart.

If this sounds like the kind of support you are looking for, please contact me to arrange an initial session.

Dream Therapy:

What is Dream Therapy? It isn’t a space to interpret your dreams but to work out why you are having these dreams (or nightmares). Our brain uses the time that we are sleeping to process many different thoughts and events that have occurred during our day, sometimes these are linked with past experiences too.
Dream therapy helps you to workout what thoughts are causing these dreams and we also look at how you might like to change the dream, change the ending.

A little more about me and how I work

I am a qualified Integrative Therapist and an accredited registered member of the National Counselling Society and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

Being an Integrative Therapist means that I can utilise my understanding of the Psychodynamic, Humanistic and CBT approaches. However, my specific approach is always tailored to my client’s therapeutic needs as I recognise that each person is unique with a multitude of distinct experiences and feelings.

I have experience in offering therapy online, by phone and in person. I provide both time-limited and open-ended therapy for adults. Besides working as a private practitioner, I also work for an NHS-based counselling service.

I can offer therapy in Hungarian as well as in English, if you would rather speak in your native language.

I am an LGBTQ-affirmative therapist.

Areas I work with:

“You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending.”

C. S. Lewis

I believe therapy not only offers a space for processing confused, difficult or painful feelings but also creates an opportunity for self-discovery and self-development.